Signs of the evolving tradition

Giedion talks about how urban architecture and architecture has become intertwined increasingly. Cities are changing.... but ultimately, he asks us the question, How do we wish to live? Philosophical question. This is the exact question homeowners need to answer when contemplating an addition/ renovation/ new build. How much do people settle for? Does anyone have a house they totally adore? How do they solve this question? What do they ask for of their architect?